Speaking the Truth in Love - Ephesians 4:15
Hey friends,
The other day, I found myself in that awkward spot we all know too well. A close friend was heading down a path that worried me, and I felt the nudge to say something. My first instinct? Either stay quiet to keep the peace or blurt out the hard truth and risk hurting her feelings.
That’s when Ephesians 4:15 came to mind:
“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”
Y’all, this verse has been working on me for years. It’s not just about being nice or being brutally honest—it’s about doing both at the same time. Truth and love. It’s messy, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s one of the most powerful ways we show Jesus to the people around us.
I’m learning this in real time in my ordinary life.
In marriage
There are moments when I want to point out something my husband is doing (or not doing) that’s bothering me. The old Heidi would either swallow it and grow resentful or let it fly with a sharp tone. Speaking the truth in love sounds more like: “I feel disconnected when we don’t have time to talk at night. I miss you, and I want us to be close again.” Same truth, but wrapped in love instead of accusation.
With my kids
When one of them is acting out, it’s easy to just correct them harshly. But I’m trying to pause and say, “Hey, that wasn’t kind, and I know you’re better than that because I’ve seen your kind heart. Let’s try again.” Truth about the behavior, love for their heart.
In friendships
I had to have a hard conversation recently with a girlfriend who kept canceling plans last minute. Instead of ghosting or exploding, I said, “I love our friendship and I miss seeing you. When plans fall through a lot, it makes me feel like I’m not a priority. Can we figure this out?” It felt scary, but it actually brought us closer.
Even online
This one’s tough in today’s world. It’s easy to post a “truth bomb” or stay completely silent. Speaking the truth in love might mean commenting with grace, disagreeing kindly, or privately messaging someone instead of calling them out publicly.
Here’s what I’m learning about living this out:
Check your heart first. Am I speaking to make myself feel superior, or because I genuinely care about the other person?
Pray before the hard words. Ask God to fill your mouth with both truth and tenderness.
Use “I” instead of “You.” It softens the truth without watering it down.
Remember the goal is growth—not winning the argument. The verse says we grow up into Christ together when we do this well.
Friends, none of us get this perfect. I still fumble it more than I’d like. But when we speak truth in love—even clumsily—relationships get stronger, wounds heal, and we look a little more like Jesus.
So if you’ve got something heavy on your heart to say to someone you love, ask the Lord for help. He’ll give you the words and the courage.
I’m cheering you on (and learning right beside you),
Heidi 💛
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